MAGPIE'S MUMBLINGS

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Thursday, December 01, 2016

Today I don't have a post from me - the tears are too strong

Christmas Story: For the Man Who Hated Christmas
By Nancy W. Gavin

It’s just a small, white envelope stuck among the branches of our Christmas tree. No name, no identification, no inscription. It has peeked through the branches of our tree for the past ten years.

It all began because my husband Mike hated Christmas. Oh, not the true meaning of Christmas, but the commercial aspects of it—overspending and the frantic running around at the last minute to get a tie for Uncle Harry and the dusting powder for Grandma—the gifts given in desperation because you couldn’t think of anything else.

Knowing he felt this way, I decided one year to bypass the usual shirts, sweaters, ties and so forth. I reached for something special just for Mike. The inspiration came in an unusual way.

Our son Kevin, who was 12 that year, was on the wrestling team at the school he attended. Shortly before Christmas, there was a non-league match against a team sponsored by an inner-city church. These youngsters, dressed in sneakers so ragged that shoestrings seemed to be the only thing holding them together, presented a sharp contrast to our boys in their spiffy blue and gold uniforms and sparkling new wrestling shoes.

As the match began, I was alarmed to see that the other team was wrestling without headgear, a kind of light helmet designed to protect a wrestler’s ears. It was a luxury the ragtag team obviously could not afford.

Well, we ended up walloping them. We took every weight class. Mike, seated beside me, shook his head sadly, “I wish just one of them could have won,” he said. “They have a lot of potential, but losing like this could take the heart right out of them.” Mike loved kids—all kids. He so enjoyed coaching little league football, baseball and lacrosse. That’s when the idea for his present came.

That afternoon, I went to a local sporting goods store and bought an assortment of wrestling headgear and shoes, and sent them anonymously to the inner-city church. On Christmas Eve, I placed a small, white envelope on the tree, the note inside telling Mike what I had done, and that this was his gift from me.

Mike’s smile was the brightest thing about Christmas that year. And that same bright smile lit up succeeding years. For each Christmas, I followed the tradition—one year sending a group of mentally handicapped youngsters to a hockey game, another year a check to a pair of elderly brothers whose home had burned to the ground the week before Christmas, and on and on.

The white envelope became the highlight of our Christmas. It was always the last thing opened on Christmas morning, and our children—ignoring their new toys—would stand with wide-eyed anticipation as their dad lifted the envelope from the tree to reveal its contents. As the children grew, the toys gave way to more practical presents, but the small, white envelope never lost its allure.

The story doesn’t end there. You see, we lost Mike last year due to dreaded cancer. When Christmas rolled around, I was still so wrapped in grief that I barely got the tree up. But Christmas Eve found me placing an envelope on the tree. And the next morning, I found it was magically joined by three more. Unbeknownst to the others, each of our three children had for the first time placed a white envelope on the tree for their dad. The tradition has grown and someday will expand even further with our grandchildren standing to take down that special envelope.

Mike’s spirit, like the Christmas spirit will always be with us.


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9 comments:

Catherine said...

I've welled up and had to swallow hard. How wonderful, just the spirit of Christmas.

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FlowerLady Lorraine said...

This was beautiful and has more tears streaming. An online friend just lost her husband unexpectedly two weeks ago. They were married 45 years. I lost my husband to cancer 4 years ago on the 9th of this month.

This makes you want to love and give as much as possible.

FlowerLady

Judy Cooper Textile Images said...

A beautiful story, Mary Ann. Thanks for sharing.

Carol- Beads and Birds said...

Yes, that is the Spirit of Christmas that I know and love. Too sad for those that never met it.
xx, Carol

Michelle said...

Oh I'm so sorry about Mike. That's so sad, but what a wonderful tradition he created. May his memory live on forever Mary Ann. Wishing you a beautiful love filled festive season/

Baa. xxx said...

How lovely!

Christine Barnsley said...

I must have missed this the day you posted it Mary Anne.... what a wonderful way to capture the true meaning of Christmas. Hugs Christine x

Cathy said...

I’ve read this story several times on your blog in the last several days, and it’s time to slow down and let you know how much I appreciate you posting it. There is nothing like a story to hit home and remind us (meaning me in this case) the TRUE meaning of Christmas - giving unto others. Thank you for your friendship, dear one. Hugs, C